Reconnecting and Healing Your Body Through Sensuality and Letting Go of Body Shame

How much do you love your body?

For many women, myself included, this can be a difficult question to hear and answer. That’s because this question, although simple on the surface, is loaded with a history of trauma, challenging emotions and feelings, body shame and more.

At the same time, it is critical for most sisters to reconnect with and heal our bodies by embracing with our sensuality and letting go of any shame we feel about ourselves.

This is no small task, but it is essential if we want to bond with our Divine power and realize our full potential as vital, loving, compassionate, creative women.

The question is not why we feel shame for our body temple, but how can we overcome it. Achieving that connection is a multistep process.

For one thing, it makes no sense for women to begin connecting with their emotional body if they are suffering from physical issues such as inflammation and sickness. That is, loving their bodies and their sensuality is likely the last thing on their minds if the body is in distress. That means we need to have compassion for ourselves and to move forward on the path of healing in a deliberate way.

The critical part of the connection process involves recognizing the essential relationship between nourishing your body with nutritious food, knowing that such sustenance is key to overcoming inflammation and illness and that your sensuality is intimately involved in this entire situation.

Inflammatory diseases are those that are characterized by inflammation. Some of the more common examples include allergies, diabetes, heart disease,Crohn’s disease, inflammatory bowel disease, arthritis, celiac disease, hepatitis, and some cancers

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Nourishing foods have a high vibrational value 

That is, organic, unprocessed fruits, vegetables, whole grains, seeds, nuts, beans, herbal teas, fermented foods, raw honey, and filtered water fall into this category. The more high-vibrational foods we eat, the better we feel and the less we crave foods that don’t fully nourish us, such as processed foods that contain sugar, trans fats, and artificial flavors, colors, and preservatives.


When we choose high vibrational foods, we acknowledge that we care about what we put into our sacred temple. We seek foods that give us energy rather than rob us of energy. When we follow such a positive path, we are also led to adopt some natural soulful tools that can be considered the pillars of our growth and transformation.



Pillars of growth and transformation

If we eat nourishing foods and adopt the pillars, we can achieve true transformation, a return to the Divine women we have always been but that need to be released and allowed to flourish. What are those pillars?


Nature.When we immerse ourselves in the wonders of Nature, we become more grounded and in touch with our inner divinity. Make it a point to spend quiet time in Nature every day where you can meditate, reflect, and affirm your sacredness.

Journaling.Keeping a daily journal of your thoughts and feelings is a powerful and private way to face your fears, joys, desires, and dreams and understand them better. A journal is a tangible connection with your inner sacred self even when you find it challenging to connect in any other way. Journaling also helps you document your efforts to eat high-vibrational foods.

Meditation.Daily meditation, even if you do so for only 10 to 15 minutes, is a time to connect with your Divine Feminine and focus on centering harmony and tranquility in your mind, body, and spirit. Meditation is an important habit to establish and a pillar that can firmly ground you on your healing journey.

Movement.When we move, whether it is through dancing, walking, jumping, swimming, twirling, climbing, or more, we connect with a core energy and release it, allowing it to race throughout our body. Movement allows us to stay in touch with our body, appreciate it and love it, without shame. Take time every day to move with abandon or with purpose, but be sure to embrace the pleasures you feel.

Learning.Open your mind, heart, and spirit to the wonders of the world, other people, situations, and sensations. Make it a habit to learn something new every day—be it a new word, recipe, route to work, way to heighten your sensuality, or flower or bird in your area. Learning about your world stimulates your internal growth and makes you feel better about yourself.

Sensuality.Pleasure and happiness in your body is a birthright. All of the other pillars we discuss can help you reach a point where you can feel safe and without shame and come to celebrate your sensuality.

We were born to be sensual beings and to celebrate our bodies, not shame them. Nourish yourself and adopt the pillars and you will be reintroduced to the creative, loving, sensual being you truly are. 

What pillars do you use for your sacred temple to take care of her from a place of love, joy, and nurturance? 

Share on the comments below. I would love to hear from you.

With many wishes of love and health,

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Nothing Will Ever Be Enough

Dear sisters, many of us know people who are addicted to something, whether it’s gambling, shopping, food, alcohol, drugs, etc.

 

 These addictions are about seeking out and using things outside of ourselves—more wine, more chocolate, more pairs of shoes, you fill in the blank—to push down or bury fears and memories of trauma.

 

 For a brief moment, we falsely believe or want to believe that eating another box of cookies or buying a few more dresses and shoes will take away our pain or make us forget. 

But nothing will ever be enough. 

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The same is true of another type of addiction, one that emerges from inside of ourselves. 

 

This is an emotional addiction.

Unconsciously, we can get high from incessant worrying, anxiety, shame, and fear. Subconsciously, we want to experience these painful emotions…but why? 

 

Is it because suffering is all we know, because we believe it is all we deserve, because others have convinced us that it is our fate?

 

For many years, I was addicted to emotional eating, to the point that I became deathly ill. At that time, I chose to look at my life through dark lenses, seeing only the negative aspect in people, places, and situations. This vision justified my belief that I was a victim. My mother and I had to flee Colombia for Canada, leaving behind family, friends, school, and our belongings for a life in a foreign place, full of uncertainties.

Back then, I found comfort in the drama of knowing deep inside that if I saw the darkness in my surroundings, I would have validation for my feelings. 

 

That meant I could keep on feeding myself the venom that would then nourish more drama in my life. I believed I had reasons to keep the drama going.

 

What if all of those reasons are wrong? 

Experiencing highly negative emotions change the levels of certain chemicals in our body, such as cortisol and adrenaline, which are stress hormones. If we allow ourselves to be overcome by these unhealthy feelings over time, their chemistry becomes addictive. We get caught up in self-destructive way of being, limiting our abilities to pursue our dreams, realize our full potential, and grow with the force of life. The negative emotions become our new normal.

We can break this cycle of negative emotions and energy. They are not the nourishment we need to sustain our body temple or embrace our Divine Feminine selves. 

 

To help us eliminate this path of negativity, we can adopt these suggestions:

 

Become aware. Awareness of your behaviors, feelings, and emotions is a critical first step toward change. Sit quietly and contemplate your situation. If you are truly happy and content living with a cycle of negative energy, then so be it! If not, being aware that is not where you want to be is a huge step in the right direction.

Part of this awareness process involves looking at emotional eating. If this step does not apply to you, feel free to read ahead! However, so many of us face eating challenges, it’s important to mention it here. Ask yourself:

•     Why are you eating?Are you still living in a past that no longer exists? Are you blaming and judging yourself for past traumas? Is your emotional eating causing you to miss out on embracing your Divine Feminine life force and to be emotionally disconnected?

•     What are you eating:Are you feeding yourself negative stories about yourself and your past? Are you telling yourself you’re not pretty enough, smart enough, thin enough, successful enough?

•     When are you eating?Do you eat instead of being social with family and friends? Are you worried about what others will think of you? Do you eat when others have achieved something you wish you had done and wonder why you have not had the same chance?

Acceptance. Consciously accept that you have an emotional addiction and that you need to take responsibility for it by interrupting it and replacing it with something that will serve you rather than harm you. Vocalize your acceptance by saying it out loud in the mirror. Write it down. Share it with a friend if you are comfortable with that. 

Make a decision. Once you have acknowledged and accepted your current state of being, make a firm decision to move ahead and embrace positive, life-affirming habits and dispel the negative ones.

Journal. Keep a journal of your thoughts, emotions, and actions. Be objective and nonjudgmental; this is not an exercise in criticism but a way to observe yourself so you can better grow and change.

Make affirmations. On a daily basis, make declarations of being. (You may also want to incorporate the gratitude meditation I talk about here.) Stand in front of a mirror and speak your affirmations out loud so they resonate in your head, heart, and spirit. Speak of the things you are good at and keep reinforcing the parts of you that you are connected to physically and emotionally. 

Be vigilant. Whenever you find yourself thinking a negative thought or experiencing a negative emotion, stop yourself and replace it with something positively. This habit takes a while to adopt fully, but it can change your life for the positive.

After a while—and it may take days, weeks, or months--you will find yourself able to smoothly break the cycle of negativity and especially experience the harmony and pleasure of escaping the negative energy with which you once surrounded yourself. 

Are you ready to get off the path of negativity and embrace the sacred, divine you that is yearning to greet the world with positive energy? 

 

Please share with us how you have adopted these suggestions and offer some of your own so that we all may find our way to harmony. 

 

Holding you in the highest vision of love and health,

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