Chances are your mother and most certainly your grandmother never even thought about self-care because it didn’t exist in their day and no one talked about it. Even when I was growing up in Colombia and then later in Canada, I was taught that working hard was the only thing to do if you wanted to earn money. Giving was more important than receiving, and you just didn’t do things for yourself. Taking care of yourself, in fact, was being selfish.
I was taught that taking care of your husband was essential if you wanted to keep a man. I also had to know how to be a good mother if I wanted good kids, but no one ever talked about how to take care of me.
Society often equates pleasure with sex, yet the female body also has other pleasurable needs, such as nutritious food, sleep, play, laughter, and rituals that make your body feel special. That can mean something as simple as taking a bubble bath or doing oil pulling or getting a massage. These and other activities honor who you are, and your body thanks you for it.
If we walk around with negative thoughts about ourselves or hold on to resentments, anger, shame, fear, irritation, or frustration, then our true loving essence cannot shine through. All of our energy is then spent dealing with these negative feelings. They hold us back from expressing our Divine selves and realizing our full potential. We are drained.